I woke up early Sunday and reached for the radio button and got to listen to the soothing, reassuring voices of Krista Tippett, host of On Being, and Jane Gross, creator of The New
York Times’ New Old Age blog, talk about the emotional journey of taking care of an aging, aged, and dying parent. The episode is called The Far Shore of Aging (you can listen to the entire, unedited episode below in the embed) and is a mandatory listen for everyone: both those pre-, mid-, and post-caregiving. While all the recent reports on NPR and this episode almost mock me as they have all aired post my mum’s passing, this show acted like essential balm, an ointment that soothed some persistent feelings of failure, regret, ineptitude, and guilt. Not that they’re healed, but it was very helpful to realize, over time, that most everyone who has seen a parent through sickness, aging, agedness, dying, and death has gone through these same feelings of missing the mark. It was interesting, as an only child, to listen to Ms. Gross talk about going through the death of her mother alongside her brother.
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